The Etiquette of Disagreement

**The Etiquette of Disagreement:**

One of Imam Al-Shafi’i’s students, named Yunus, disagreed with his teacher, Imam Al-Shafi’i, on an issue. The student became angry, left the lesson, and went home!

As night approached, he heard a knock on his door. When he opened it, he was surprised to find Imam Al-Shafi’i standing there. The Imam said, “O Yunus, hundreds of issues unite us, and one issue separates us! O Yunus, do not try to win in every disagreement. Sometimes, ‘winning hearts’ is more important than ‘winning arguments.’

O Yunus, do not destroy the bridges you have built and crossed, for you may need them someday to return.

Always hate ‘the mistake,’ but do not hate ‘the one who makes it.’ Detest ‘the sin’ with all your heart, but forgive and have mercy on ‘the sinner.’ O Yunus, criticize ‘the statement,’ but respect ‘the speaker.’ Our mission is to eradicate ‘the disease,’ not ‘the patient.'”


  1. A great message!
    We are lacking this spirit and the world is full of hate, we may learn from this massage and rectify.
    Let’s transform the entire world hate free and a better place to live.
    Warmest regards

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